Commands to households

2 So what must you do? Just this: you must instruct people how to conduct themselves in accordance with healthy teaching.

² The older men are to be sober, dignified, sensible, and healthy in faith, love and patience. ³ In the same way, older women are to be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers or enslaved to heavy drinking, able to teach what is good. ⁴ That way, they can give sensible instructions to the younger women on how to love their husbands and their children, ⁵ and how to be sensible, holy, good at looking after the household, and submissive to their own husbands, so that people won’t have bad things to say about the word of God. ⁶ You must urge the younger men, in the same way, to be sensible ⁷ in all things.

Make sure you present yourself as a pattern of good works. Your teaching must be consistent and serious, ⁸ in healthy speech that is beyond reproach. That way, our opponents will be ashamed, since they won’t have anything bad to say about us.

⁹ Slaves must be submissive in everything to their masters. They must do what is wanted and not answer back ¹⁰ or help themselves to their masters’ property. They are to show good faith in everything, so that in every way they may be a good advertisement for the teaching of God our savior.

Grace, hope and holiness

¹¹ God’s saving grace, you see, appeared for all people. ¹² It teaches us that we should turn our backs on ungodliness and the passions of the world, and should live sober, just and devout lives in the present age, ¹³ while we wait eagerly for the blessed hope and royal appearing of the glory of our great God and savior, Jesus the Messiah. ¹⁴ He gave himself for us so that he could ransom us from all lawless actions and purify for himself a people as his very own who would be eager for good works.

¹⁵ This is what you must say. Exhort people and rebuke them. Use full authority. Don’t let anyone look down on you.

Greetings

¹ Paul, a prisoner of Messiah Jesus, and Timothy our brother: to our beloved Philemon, our colleague and partner, ² to Apphia our sister, and to Archippus our comrade-in-arms, and to God’s people who meet in their house. ³ May grace and peace be upon you, from God our father and Messiah Jesus the Lord.

⁴ I always thank my God when your name comes up in my prayers, ⁵ because I’ve heard of your love and faithful loyalty towards the Lord Jesus and to all God’s people. ⁶ My prayer is this: that the partnership which goes with your faith may have its powerful effect, in realizing every good thing that is at work in us to lead us into the Messiah. ⁷ You see, my dear brother, your love gives me so much joy and comfort! You have refreshed the hearts of God’s people.

Paul’s appeal

⁸ Because of all this I could be very bold in the Messiah, and order you to do the right thing. ⁹ But, because of love, I’d much rather appeal to you—yes, it’s me, Paul, speaking, an old man as I am and now a prisoner of Messiah Jesus! ¹⁰ I am appealing to you about my child, the one I have fathered here in prison: Onesimus, “Mr Useful.” ¹¹ There was a time when he was useless to you; but now he’s very useful, to you and to me.

¹² I’m sending him to you for your decision—yes, sending the man himself; and this means sending my own heart. ¹³ I would have liked to keep him here with me, so that he could have been your representative in serving me in the chains of the gospel. ¹⁴ But I didn’t want to do anything without you knowing about it. That way, when you did the splendid thing that the situation requires, it wouldn’t be under compulsion, but of your own free will.

Paul’s perspective

¹⁵ Look at it like this. Maybe this is the reason he was separated from you for a while, so that you could have him back forever— ¹⁶ no longer as a slave, but much more than a slave, as a beloved brother, beloved especially to me, but how much more to you, both as part of your household and in the Lord. ¹⁷ So, anyway, if you reckon me a partner in your work, receive him as though he was me. ¹⁸ And if he’s wronged you in any way, or owes you anything, put that down on my account. ¹⁹ This is me, Paul, writing with my own hand: I’ll pay you back (and far be it from me to remind you that you owe me your own very self!). ²⁰ Yes, my brother, I want some benefit from you in the Lord! Refresh my heart in the Messiah.

²¹ As I write this I’m confident that you’ll do what I say. In fact, I know you’ll do more than I say. ²² But, at the same time, get a guest room ready for me. I’m hoping, you see, that through your prayers I will be granted to you.

²³ Epaphras, my fellow prisoner in Messiah Jesus, sends you greetings. ²⁴ So do Mark, Aristarchus, Demas and Luke, my colleagues here.

²⁵ The grace of the Lord, Messiah Jesus, be with your spirit.